5 Ways to Put More Soul into your Sex Life

Sexy love couple

If you’re looking for some flashy + mechanical techniques that’ll blow your lover away, stop reading right this minute! You won’t find any of that stuff here. 

What you will find is a very deep + soulful list full of ways that will not only bring you + your sexy bedmate more pleasure, but will also help to cultivate more of a crazy-intimate-connection between you two.

And speaking of that list, here it is!

1. Choose wisely + with deep intent.

First off: Pick a partner who gets you, who vibes with you, who makes you feel like the best version of yourself.

Because when we get entangled with someone romantically, their energy becomes our energy. And the person whom you choose to love is going to either bring up your vibration, or bring it down. Stay away from anyone who makes your light shine lower.

No ifs, no ands, and certainly no buts.   

2. Throw all expectations out the window!

Expectations kill the moment. They rob lovemaking of its spontaneity and playfulness. If you’re up for passion and excitement, then you can’t bring rigid ways of what lovemaking should look like to the table. The second you let go of expectations of what you should be doing, and even expectations of what your partner should be doing, the two of you can relax and free-fall into bliss at your own pace, and in your own unique style.

3.  Be vulnerable.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman — vulnerability is sexy as hell. Playing strong + gorgeous + perfect all the time doesn’t really make for an intoxicating experience under the sheets.

I mean, it could be sufficient, I suppose.

But who really wants sufficiency when baring your soul + heart in the presence of another person is so much more fun?!

I mean, come on, you’re getting naked, aren’t you?! So really get naked then — be open + present + tender + loving + divine. Be all the things you are, fully, and let all the things you are shine out of your eyes like some impassioned, uncontrollable light.

4. When you’re giving to your partner, be so full and present that it feels as if you’re actually receiving, too.  

This applies to anything. Whether you’re massaging your lover’s shoulders or pleasuring them or doing any number of things, you really want your act of giving to feel so good, it’s like you’re receiving.

What do I mean by this? I mean that you don’t want to be there just going through the motions. Really put yourself into it. Your whole self.

When you’re completely present, heart + intention will be applied to what you’re doing for your partner. And that heart + intention will feel so good that you’ll automatically feel as if you’ve been receiving pleasure the entire time, too! Total win-win situation.

5. See your lover as sacred.

It’s so easy to take this one for granted, but Don’t Fall Into That Trap! As a matter of fact, it’s so easy to take everything for granted — the air we breathe, the food we eat, the amazing people in our lives. We do this every day.

We become so used to things and people that we start treating them like “givens.” We forget to wake up in the morning with gratitude coursing through us. And living this way makes us miss out on so much of what life has to offer!

So in the bedroom (and outside of it, as well), see your lover as sacred. Cherish every moment with them. Make them feel truly + madly + deeply loved. See each moment with your lover as a precious time that will never come again.

Don’t take a single second with the one you love + adore for granted, and trust me, the sex will be hotter than ever!

And there you have it. Soulful Sex on a platter. You’re welcome. Now get out of here and get lovin’! 😉

And while you’re at it, leave me some love in the comment section below! Let me know if you have any soulful sex tips of your own!

  • Frederic Michael Hazard
    Posted at 03:23h, 19 December

    I will have to say the key is becoming your partner! Being present with-in them,,, So then it is like you are pleasuring yourself because you feel every touch you place upon them! Tantric was something I use to do a lot in my younger days in the act, and it worked wonders to spiritually connect! The breathing, the way of certain motions… You should try it!

    • Rhoda Jordan
      Posted at 03:58h, 19 December

      YES exactly!! I teach tantra and work with a lot of couples on all of this! Such an amazing, transformative process. Tantra is really what got me started on this path years back! I’m going to be sharing LOTS of tantric exercises and information here soon too, so stay tuned! 😉

      • Frederic Michael Hazard
        Posted at 04:24h, 19 December

        Not sure of which you are familiar with but for me,,, The breathing in when she is breathing out, etc… was excellent for me! And the countdown from 10 deep and shallow was the best!

        • Rhoda Jordan
          Posted at 18:12h, 20 December

          YES those are so powerful!! I love all of the breathing. That stuff is transformational.

  • Lorraine
    Posted at 04:42h, 21 December

    Putting all of these into practice all the time would pretty much change every relationship and a whole lot of things in the world we want to be different. Good for the soul all the way around.

    • Rhoda Jordan
      Posted at 20:05h, 22 December

      So true. What we bring into our relationships/sex life will, in turn, impact every other facet of our lives as well! Thanks Lorraine. 🙂

  • Vironika Tugaleva
    Posted at 19:39h, 21 December

    Great tips, Rhoda. I find number 5 to be the most powerful. To say Namaste and truly mean it, to truly honour the divine in the other – we become one. We don’t need to worry about our bodies because we’re not our bodies. We are life itself. And, there, beautiful things happen.

    • Rhoda Jordan
      Posted at 20:02h, 22 December

      Yes! I love it! Such a beautiful feeling to transcend the limitations of our bodies and truly merge as one!

  • Tanja@CrystalClarity
    Posted at 05:09h, 22 December

    Awesome suggestions, Rhoda.

    I think for me, letting go of expectations is a biggie – but also (not as paradoxical as it sounds) being willing to communicate, and set limits and boundaries ahead of time.

    Being able to talk to my partner is such a huge thing for me, and feeling comfortable saying “Even though I really enjoyed doing *this thing* yesterday, today it doesn’t feel right and I don’t want to go there” (without necessarily having to explain or justify that limit) is really important. And feeling confident that my partner is equally comfortable setting limits in the same way is important too!



    • Rhoda Jordan
      Posted at 20:01h, 22 December

      Thank you Tanja! I completely agree with the importance of setting boundaries. When you have a partner whom you can communicate openly with about sex (and everything else, for that matter), it’s the most amazing thing in the world. Thanks so much for bringing up such a very essential piece!